2022年3月27日 星期日

The Beauty of Dusk. Memoir about losing sight but gaining perspective







P.S. Frank Bruni, the longtime Times writer, discussed his new memoir, about losing sight but gaining perspective, on “Fresh Air” on NPR.




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After experiencing a rare kind of stroke, NYT writer Frank Bruni suddenly became blind in his right eye. Doctors told him there was a decent chance the same could happen to his other eye. It forced him to make a decision: He could focus on what had been lost or on what remained. He chose the latter. Bruni's new memoir is The Beauty of Dusk.

2022年3月20日 星期日

《「老」的思考》(Min-te Zhao轉貼);讀詩人岩瀬 正雄《化石》與《能會公園》刊於《心靈的密碼:日本現代詩精選集》

 

《「老」的思考》(Min-te Zhao轉貼);讀詩人岩瀬 正雄《化石》與《能會公園》刊於《心靈的密碼:日本現代詩精選集》

https://www.facebook.com/hanching.chung/videos/1288118021593870

轉貼一篇有看法的文章:
《「老」的思考》
一個會心酸的議題 :
老了要自立, 或是被外傭看管? 新孝道~讓爸媽自立, 縮短病榻中的日子…
多年前,台大外文系教授劉毓秀接到社區警衛的數落電話:「教授,你九十歲的爸爸剛剛扛著一包米經過社區大門,外人看了都不忍心,你們是怎麼當兒女的?」
「最好的孝順,就是不孝。」
日本作家岸見一郎在他的新書《面對父母老去的勇氣》一書中,提到當父母老了,子女應該找機會,換一種方式來愛他。
「我的方式就是,『有事,弟子不服其勞』,」
一生致力平權與婦運的劉毓秀說,現在子女被傳統孝道捆綁,眼見父母衰老,為了降低罪惡感,就找外傭來照料,陪著走路、餵食、打理,讓老人自理能力越來越差。
「其實,老人也是可以訓練的,北歐就是一個很好的例子。」
一九九六年,劉毓秀第一次去北歐參訪養老機構。「當時我的父親七十三歲,公婆也邁向高齡,台灣同時面對老化與少子化兩列疾駛對撞的人口列車,對於老,我是非常惶恐的。」
台灣老人平均臥病時間是七.三年,但北歐老人卻只有二個星期,劉毓秀在瑞典看到老人上超市、購物、上銀行,「我們常要求國家對老人制度給予服務與支持,但子女在家庭中的責任呢?」
她體認到「提供父母保存生活技能與體力不退化」的照顧,才是現代新孝道。
北歐回來後,劉毓秀決定從自己的父母開始,展開長達二十年的實踐計畫。
第一,住宅改變。「老後體力會衰退,我們先幫父母從四樓老公寓換到有電梯的大樓,避免跌倒。」
第二,不當宅老。「只要身體硬朗,買菜、煮飯、洗衣、上銀行,都讓他們自己來,就算是看病,我也只帶看初診,後續由他們自己掛號,子女雖住在附近,但僅在假日陪爸媽上館子吃飯。」老頑童般的生命態度拒喝參茶 ?
「若癱了,更不好走」
第三, 有事,弟子不服其勞。
「我們不請外傭二十四小時看顧,而是委託彭婉如基金會尋找本土居家員,每周四個小時的鐘點服務,協助父母爬高彎腰搬重物,與清潔打掃,一個月才花四千四百元。」假日子女會帶父母出外踏青,平常,劉毓秀兄妹讓父母獨居,獨力料理生活大小事。
「我們讓他自己上超市,結果老頑童父親買了一堆泡麵來吃,這太不健康了,但我媽勸我,『算了,他都九十幾歲了。』」
「自立、自理、尊嚴」。
二十年前,劉毓秀從北歐老人身上看到的,放到自己父母身上實踐。
劉爸爸去年底以九十三歲高齡辭世,劉毓秀說:「驗證了北歐模式是可行的,爸爸體衰臥病僅有短短數周,病榻中的父親,甚至拒絕母親準備的人參茶。
理由是『補了氣,若癱了,讓我更不好走。』」
看著前幾年陪父母去賞花的照片,面對生命的璀璨與凋零,劉毓秀感激地說:「看到我爸爸這麼有智慧地與子女一同處理老化過程,讓我對於『老』這件事情,心底終於篤定,不再害怕。」
芬蘭人死前平均臥床七天,台灣人死前平均臥床七年。芬蘭政府的預算花在老人的體能訓練,使身體健康。台灣政府卻致力於長照,花大筆錢照顧老病的人。
每每經過成功國宅時,看到走廊一長排的外傭陪著輪椅上面無表情的雇主,我就常常逼自己發誓,既使不良於行,也不讓人來推輪椅。
人,如果在結束生命前,僅僅七天需要人服侍,那是福氣啊 !!
說得很對! 人到老年,能自己處理的事不要叫別人幫忙,否則久而久之就成習慣,事事要人照顧,就完全失去獨立自主的能力。日子還有何意義?



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讀詩人岩瀬 正雄(いわせ まさお、1907年11月27日 - 2003年5月18日)的兩首詩。《化石》與《能會公園》,刊於 丸地  守 張香華主編《心靈的密碼:日本現代詩精選集》台北:遠流,2002,pp.51~55
當時93歲.....


2022年3月3日 星期四

2022年2月17日 星期四

【你的天堂我的家】𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝘽𝙪𝙗𝙗𝙡𝙚;From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life


https://www.npr.org/2022/02/16/1080840387/retirement-happiness-social-science-ageing-book

Brooks' new book is From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. He spoke to All Things Considered about not leaving happiness to chance and about the two types of intelligence needed for happiness.

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

On cracking the code to happiness in the second half of life

You've got to do the work. You can't just wish for it, and you can't hope you get lucky.


he point of the work that I'm doing as a social scientist is to not leave your happiness up to chance but to remarkably increase the odds by doing the work at 25 and 45 and 65 so that by the time you're 75 and 85 and beyond, you're happier than you've ever been.

And I found that there are people who have cracked the code but, more importantly, that we don't have to leave happiness in the second half of life up to chance. We can find a new kind of success if we're willing to make some jumps and some changes and show some humility and have an adventure that's better than the first half.

On the intelligence needed for happiness

There's a very interesting set of findings that said success early on is based on one of two types of intelligence. The first is called fluid intelligence, which gives you the ability to solve problems, to crack the case, to innovate faster and to focus harder than pretty much all the competition early on in your career. This is your Elon Musk brain, and this increases through your 20s and into your 30s.

But then it tends to decline through your 40s and 50s, meaning that you need to move to the second kind of intelligence, which is increasing in your 40s and 50s and even your 60s, and it will stay high for the rest of your life. That's called your crystallized intelligence, which is your wisdom, your ability to compile the information that's in your vast library to teach better, to explain better, to form teams better. In other words, not to answer somebody else's questions, but to form the right questions.

On staying flexible

One of the biggest things that I teach my students at the Harvard Business School is that what you think right now is not what you're going to think later. The things that you want are not the things that you're going to want later.

Your abilities are going to change. Your views are going to change. The things you care about [are] going to change, and that's good and that's healthy. And that kind of flexibility is key.

On using the pandemic's pause button

Everybody knows that the pandemic is not something that we wanted, but it's also been an incredible opportunity for a lot of people. For me, I was able to quietly write this book and set up a strategic plan for the rest of my life.

A lot of other people tell me similar stories and how they deepened their relationships — that they understood themselves better. And this is something that we should remember as we get back into the hustle and bustle of non-pandemic life.

Let's not forget that there are certain things that we don't want to go back to.


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「養老院是你進去等死的地方,但這裡可以讓你延壽十年。」
👵🧓🏊🧘⛳🍸這樣的機智退休生活,心動嗎 ? 早上重拾興趣,充實自己,午後悠閒運動,傍晚與伴侶chill一下~ 今晚的紀錄片《你的天堂我的家》紀錄 #美國最大退休社區 「群村」(The Village)的老年生活。看似夢幻的退休生活,真的那麼美好?
東妮與羅傑(Toni & Roger Akers)剛剛搬入群村,正在享受這裡提供的一切服務。穿上青春活潑的情侶服裝、嘗試新的愛好、出入餐廳,和高爾夫球場、結交新朋友,雖然過去行旅四方並投入職場,但他們對這處,高度同質化的地方十分滿意,並忙於許多社交活動。他們尚未對這個全新的生活方式提出質疑,但在他們深入瞭解後,可能難免也會心生疑慮...
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【#你的天堂我的家】𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝘽𝙪𝙗𝙗𝙡𝙚
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🈶網路直播 🈶公視+免費線上看 (2/17-2/24)
導演:Valerie Blankenbyl
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美國最大退休社區「群村」(The Village)
佔地142平方公里 ( 比基隆市大 = 半個台北市)
這裡陽光普照、環境優美居住,超過15萬名退休人員。
設有96座休閒中心、54座高爾夫球場、70座游泳池
3個復古市鎮廣場和大約3000個交誼廳,餐廳酒吧,購物中心等等。
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然而,在佛羅里達州全年普照的陽光下,
悠閒的退休生活,也許並不如你所想的那樣美好...
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紀錄片中也暴露出,被隔絕在群村之外的人們,
面對群村對當地土地、水源和區域控制的貪婪慾望。
籬笆兩邊的世界,突顯出美國在階級失衡,政治立場等激烈對立
導演也藉此對美國生活方式、高齡化和死亡進行反思。



2022年1月15日 星期六

Paul Klee, Senecio (Soon to be Aged), 1922.

 Paul Klee, Senecio (Soon to be Aged), 1922.

可能是藝術品

Senecio   seneciō (old man) 1922   Senecio (Soon to be Aged), 1922.

2022年1月13日 星期四

Much Abides: A Survival Guide for Aging Lives. Tennyson's “Ulysses” Though much is taken, much abides;








Ver las 2 imágenes
Much Abides: A Survival Guide for Aging Lives Tapa blanda – 28 Septiembre 2020
de Dr. Charles H. Edwards II (Author)

 



2016.12.8
We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven, that which we are,
we are——One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find and not to yield.
雖然我們喪失許多,仍然還有許多
雖然我們的力氣不再像以前那樣
可以撼天震地,我們依舊,依舊
同樣為英雄的情懷所引誘
時間跟命運使我們虛弱,但是意志堅強
要奮鬥、要尋求、要探險、永不屈服。
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[ Alfred Tennyson--Ulysses ]
Alfred Tennyson英國19世紀的著名詩人,在世時就獲得了極高的聲譽。他深受維多利亞女王的賞識,於1850年獲得了桂冠詩人的稱號,後來又在1884年被封為男爵。然而,這樣一位大詩人也有對自己喪失信心的時候,竟曾經想刪去自己詩作中的精華部分。
Alfred Tennyson所做的名詩Ulysses〈尤里西斯〉勾畫出一位“烈士暮年,壯心不已”的老年英雄的形象,由於意境深遠,詞語優美,是最常出現在英語電影裡的詩。這一段詩同時出現在電影「春風化雨」及「007空降危機」中,是全詩最有名的一個段落。
這一次廖雅慧老師將為我們講授這首詩。

2010.12.18
胡適先生在《我們對於西洋近代文明的態度》(1926)結尾時,引了Tennyson借希臘古英雄Ulysses的口氣寫道:(按:讀者可參考本文後面較現代的譯文。胡適晚年(1961年10月25日)致好友高宗武夫婦時仍引用此詩,可見他真的「時常記得」。)

 然而人的閱歷就像一座穹門,
 以那裡露出那不曾走過的世界,
 越走越遠永不望到它的盡頭。
 半路上不幹了,多麼沉悶啊!
 明晃晃的快刀為什麼甘心上鏽!
 難道留得一口氣就算得生活了?
 ………………
 朋友,來罷!
 去尋一個更新的世界是不會太晚的。
 ………………
 用掉的精力固然不回來了,剩下的還不少呢!
 現在雖然不是以前那樣掀天動地的身手了,
 然而我們畢竟還是我們,──
 光陰與命運頹唐了幾分壯志!
 終止不住那不老的雄心,
 去努力,去探尋,去發現
 永不退讓,不屈服。



(After the historic defeat in the 2009 election, Mierscheid) quoted Alfred, Lord Tennyson's poem Ulysses in German to raise the spirits of his comrades in the Bundestag.[12]

Tho' much is taken, much abides; and tho'
We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven; that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.

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此時,我選擇丁尼生的《尤利西斯》最後一段作為我的結束語。這一段落在格雷厄姆(B. Graham,作者)家族中深受喜愛,常常反覆吟誦:

*《尤利西斯》或《奧德賽》、《奧德修》等都是同一人,是拉丁文和希臘文的不同稱呼。
「伊大嘉」(Ithaca) 是奧德賽的家鄉,是他流浪在外20年之後的歸鄉目的地。現在大陸都翻譯成「伊薩卡」。此譯文多為鍾漢清用語。 可參考:
Karl E. Weick《組織社會心理學》(The Social Psychology of Organizing) ,北京:中國人民出版社,2009,頁255-56 。英文原文請在「台灣戴明圈」blog上搜索之。
Edward W. Said《晚期風格—反本質的音樂與文學》(On Late Style: Music and Literature Against the Grain) 北京:三聯,2009,頁145-46;台北有彭淮棟先生2010年的精彩翻譯。
C. P. Cavafy /C. P. Cavafis《卡瓦菲斯詩集》黃燦然譯,石家莊:河北教育出版社,2002,頁25-27
取自 系統與變異: 淵博知識與理想設計法 (2010)
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高宗武《高宗武回憶錄》(Into the Tiger's Den*) 陶恆生譯,北京:中國百科全書出版社,2009 (這本在台灣的《傳記文學》連載過?可能早有台灣版?  應該沒有........)
*書名典故在第3章〈代表汪精衛〉,頁39
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https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45392/ulysses

Ulysses 

It little profits that an idle king,
By this still hearth, among these barren crags,
Match'd with an aged wife, I mete and dole
Unequal laws unto a savage race,
That hoard, and sleep, and feed, and know not me.
I cannot rest from travel: I will drink
Life to the lees: All times I have enjoy'd
Greatly, have suffer'd greatly, both with those
That loved me, and alone, on shore, and when
Thro' scudding drifts the rainy Hyades
Vext the dim sea: I am become a name;
For always roaming with a hungry heart
Much have I seen and known; cities of men
And manners, climates, councils, governments,
Myself not least, but honour'd of them all;
And drunk delight of battle with my peers,
Far on the ringing plains of windy Troy.
I am a part of all that I have met;
Yet all experience is an arch wherethro'
Gleams that untravell'd world whose margin fades
For ever and forever when I move.
How dull it is to pause, to make an end,
To rust unburnish'd, not to shine in use!
As tho' to breathe were life! Life piled on life
Were all too little, and of one to me
Little remains: but every hour is saved
From that eternal silence, something more,
A bringer of new things; and vile it were
For some three suns to store and hoard myself,
And this gray spirit yearning in desire
To follow knowledge like a sinking star,
Beyond the utmost bound of human thought.

         This is my son, mine own Telemachus,
To whom I leave the sceptre and the isle,—
Well-loved of me, discerning to fulfil
This labour, by slow prudence to make mild
A rugged people, and thro' soft degrees
Subdue them to the useful and the good.
Most blameless is he, centred in the sphere
Of common duties, decent not to fail
In offices of tenderness, and pay
Meet adoration to my household gods,
When I am gone. He works his work, I mine.

         There lies the port; the vessel puffs her sail:
There gloom the dark, broad seas. My mariners,
Souls that have toil'd, and wrought, and thought with me—
That ever with a frolic welcome took
The thunder and the sunshine, and opposed
Free hearts, free foreheads—you and I are old;
Old age hath yet his honour and his toil;
Death closes all: but something ere the end,
Some work of noble note, may yet be done,
Not unbecoming men that strove with Gods.
The lights begin to twinkle from the rocks:
The long day wanes: the slow moon climbs: the deep
Moans round with many voices. Come, my friends,
'T is not too late to seek a newer world.
Push off, and sitting well in order smite
The sounding furrows; for my purpose holds
To sail beyond the sunset, and the baths
Of all the western stars, until I die.
It may be that the gulfs will wash us down:
It may be we shall touch the Happy Isles,
And see the great Achilles, whom we knew.
Tho' much is taken, much abides; and tho'
We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.


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"Abides" is a word that means "remains." These guys are a team with one heartbeat. They're old and broken, but they still have the will to seek out and face challenges without giving up. They can't bench-press 200 pounds anymore, but that won't stop them from trying anyway.

Dec 28, 2013 — Tennyson was the Poet Laureate of the United Kingdom during much of Queen Victoria's reign ... Though much is taken, much abides; and though