2022年2月17日 星期四

【你的天堂我的家】𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝘽𝙪𝙗𝙗𝙡𝙚;From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life


https://www.npr.org/2022/02/16/1080840387/retirement-happiness-social-science-ageing-book

Brooks' new book is From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. He spoke to All Things Considered about not leaving happiness to chance and about the two types of intelligence needed for happiness.

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

On cracking the code to happiness in the second half of life

You've got to do the work. You can't just wish for it, and you can't hope you get lucky.


he point of the work that I'm doing as a social scientist is to not leave your happiness up to chance but to remarkably increase the odds by doing the work at 25 and 45 and 65 so that by the time you're 75 and 85 and beyond, you're happier than you've ever been.

And I found that there are people who have cracked the code but, more importantly, that we don't have to leave happiness in the second half of life up to chance. We can find a new kind of success if we're willing to make some jumps and some changes and show some humility and have an adventure that's better than the first half.

On the intelligence needed for happiness

There's a very interesting set of findings that said success early on is based on one of two types of intelligence. The first is called fluid intelligence, which gives you the ability to solve problems, to crack the case, to innovate faster and to focus harder than pretty much all the competition early on in your career. This is your Elon Musk brain, and this increases through your 20s and into your 30s.

But then it tends to decline through your 40s and 50s, meaning that you need to move to the second kind of intelligence, which is increasing in your 40s and 50s and even your 60s, and it will stay high for the rest of your life. That's called your crystallized intelligence, which is your wisdom, your ability to compile the information that's in your vast library to teach better, to explain better, to form teams better. In other words, not to answer somebody else's questions, but to form the right questions.

On staying flexible

One of the biggest things that I teach my students at the Harvard Business School is that what you think right now is not what you're going to think later. The things that you want are not the things that you're going to want later.

Your abilities are going to change. Your views are going to change. The things you care about [are] going to change, and that's good and that's healthy. And that kind of flexibility is key.

On using the pandemic's pause button

Everybody knows that the pandemic is not something that we wanted, but it's also been an incredible opportunity for a lot of people. For me, I was able to quietly write this book and set up a strategic plan for the rest of my life.

A lot of other people tell me similar stories and how they deepened their relationships — that they understood themselves better. And this is something that we should remember as we get back into the hustle and bustle of non-pandemic life.

Let's not forget that there are certain things that we don't want to go back to.


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#你的天堂我的家】𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝘽𝙪𝙗𝙗𝙡𝙚
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導演:Valerie Blankenbyl
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美國最大退休社區「群村」(The Village)
佔地142平方公里 ( 比基隆市大 = 半個台北市)
這裡陽光普照、環境優美居住,超過15萬名退休人員。
設有96座休閒中心、54座高爾夫球場、70座游泳池
3個復古市鎮廣場和大約3000個交誼廳,餐廳酒吧,購物中心等等。
然而,在佛羅里達州全年普照的陽光下,
悠閒的退休生活,也許並不如你所想的那樣美好...
紀錄片中也暴露出,被隔絕在群村之外的人們,
面對群村對當地土地、水源和區域控制的貪婪慾望。
籬笆兩邊的世界,突顯出美國在階級失衡,政治立場等激烈對立
導演也藉此對美國生活方式、高齡化和死亡進行反思。